I see now why it all was the way it was. Because it is supposed to be this.

At 28, you cried in your hippie boyfriend’s bathtub, feeling a hopeless despair, a missing for someone you hadn’t met yet. A neighborhood witch came over and gave you some tea. At 31, in a hotel by the beach as the last moments of Father’s Day ticked away, you told your lover that you were pregnant. Eight weeks later you …

Vanessa McGradyI see now why it all was the way it was. Because it is supposed to be this.

Give me your hands, if we be friends

Three years ago today, my past and my future came together in a lush Oregon patch of land, brimming with wine grapes and berries. My family and closest friends from childhood, elementary school, college, work, yoga and wherever else you meet your soul connections spent three days dancing, eating, drinking, and then crying the copious tears only an Irish family …

Vanessa McGradyGive me your hands, if we be friends

Relationships: 20,000 Ways to Die

When I became a mom, I realized there were about 5,000 ways to die. Now that Gracie is pushing 7 months and is all over the place, putting everything in her mouth and grabbing anything in 10-foot radius, I realized there are 10,000 ways to die. Then my mother came to visit. And now I realize, through Mom’s advice and …

Vanessa McGradyRelationships: 20,000 Ways to Die
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Spirit: How to Feng Shui for Baby

Laura Carrillo Today’s post comes from Laura Carrillo, a Los Angeles-based feng shui consultant. I met Laura on a transcontinental plane ride a couple years ago and we’ve been friends ever since, and I was one of her first guinea pigs when she started her practice. A couple months ago she saw how distressed I was from waiting what seemed …

Vanessa McGradySpirit: How to Feng Shui for Baby

Relationships: Bringing Home Baby

Cinco is alternately curious and sulking Adopting our baby was like being pregnant for two years in that everyone we know is invested in it by this point. Countless friends called and wrote with tears steaming down their cheeks upon hearing the news of this little miracle we call Grace Magnolia, as if they were watching the last scene of …

Vanessa McGradyRelationships: Bringing Home Baby