Spirit: 10 Useful Things to Know in Your 40s

Each year, Kathlyn makes a German chocolate cake for me, last year’s is shown above. She could stab me in the eye with a crochet hook and I would still love her for remembering the cake every year. Oh, and the bubbles? That was a byproduct of getting engaged. Today is my 43rd birthday. I am 40licious for the fourth …

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40licious Money: What to Do After You Get Fired

I’ve been fired a bunch of times. There was the waitress gig when I’d taken New Year’s Eve off months in advance to attend a friend’s wedding, then was given the choice to work it or get fired. And then there was the “misunderstanding” about my after-hours responsibilities in Vegas when I accompanied my boss to a convention. And even …

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Take the Survey!

Hey everyone, I’m working on a book about — you guessed it — turning 40. I’m at the very beginning stages of some research and I hope you’ll take a few moments to fill out this survey. It doesn’t matter whether you’re under or over 40, or a woman or a man, hate it or love it. Survey is here. …

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Respecting the Process

This is what it is like to have a baby after 40licious, no matter which way you get it. Here’s a big difference between being 40licious and younger than that.* When you are 7 or 15 or 20 or 33 or even 38, you want what you want now. You want it to happen when you deem you are ready …

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People and Things to Remember

1. My Dad. So many connections with him as I’m planning my wedding. For one, it’s at the home of the love of his life, Holly. My “bonus” mother — they never actually married. I met Holly on my 13th birthday, and I was alternately adoring and jealous and plain old mean. And I’m glad we’ve transcended everything to be …

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Archaeology of a Life

  My friends recently had to move their 90-year-old relative into a home. A new home, with people who can help him live right. Not the one he’d been in with his mother for many years until she died, and then alone for the next few decades until he could no longer manage. This man, whom I’d never met and …

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