Measles: A Battle of Love and Fear

  I’ve spent a lot of time in recent weeks going berserk  raging marveling at how our first-world public health accomplishments could spiral so horribly out of control with recent outbreaks of measles and whooping cough, dangerous diseases that were nearly eradicated for at least a generation due to high vaccination rates and the ensuing herd immunity. Even a couple of my coolest, smartest …

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To The Left, To The Left: Why I Swiped You Out of My Life

Never in my life have I consumed an alcoholic concoction to get rid of a hangover; this to me sounds like an express pass to a deeper circle of hell. But after a recent ridiculous, disproportionate heartbreak, complete with Beyoncé on repeat, I decided to go for a little “hair of the dog” and go back online to date. OK, …

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Why i will never tell my daughter to give you a hug

I did this piece for Jezebel that came out today. I hope friends and family understand that Grace is a really affectionate and loving kid, but it’s on her terms, OK? OK.

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We Find Each Other

It’s midnight and I’m working late, almost done, it’s due first thing in the morning. Exhaustion is constant, in my bones, and sometimes I have macabre thoughts that if I were in the hospital or jail for two weeks I could just sleep, undisturbed. She pads out from her bedroom, pink elephant pajamas and freshly washed curls, eyes half-mast. Without a word, she …

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In Praise of the 55-Year-Old Man

I want to respond to Tom Junod‘s piece that essentially declares 42-year-old women acceptable — and possibly even desirable — for goodsexyfuntime. After all, Tom essentially says, this is not your father’s 42-year-old! Were I to craft such a piece, I would praise, for sake of a number and because Junod was born in 1958, a 55-year-old man. I would talk about …

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The Love You Take Is Equal to the Love You Make

It’s kind of weird to be in the midst of a divorce on Valentine’s Day, a holiday I have mixed feelings about anyway. This year, I’m recognizing it as an opportunity to get all gushy over my friends and family. Plus, Grace’s artwork is piling up. So we decided to recycle AND spread the love by cutting hearts out from …

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Give me your hands, if we be friends

Three years ago today, my past and my future came together in a lush Oregon patch of land, brimming with wine grapes and berries. My family and closest friends from childhood, elementary school, college, work, yoga and wherever else you meet your soul connections spent three days dancing, eating, drinking, and then crying the copious tears only an Irish family …

Vanessa McGradyGive me your hands, if we be friends