Relationships: Keep Crazy in a Bottle

I was having a conversation today with a friend about jealousy, which brought me back to 1994, the last time I remember being insanely jealous in a relationship. I was dating a wild Irishman who was an outlandish but convincing liar. Like the time he told me he didn’t come home because it was raining so hard and the windshield …

Vanessa McGradyRelationships: Keep Crazy in a Bottle

Relationships: Lucy the Dog Part IV

She’s free. Yesterday would have been to soon to let her go and tomorrow too late. She was done, her beautiful body broken beyond repair, its parts all worn out. I was not ready to let her go. In between wracking sobs, I kept telling her things I wanted her to have in her mind on her last day. Things …

Vanessa McGradyRelationships: Lucy the Dog Part IV

Relationships: Lucy the Dog Part III

Somewhere along the way, Cinco and Lucy became best friends. My girl is shutting down. She ate a little ice cream today, and drank hardly any water. We went outside about 10 times, walking slowly, doing nothing. Two girls, just walking together. Going anywhere. Nowhere. People are coming to say goodbye to her. She made a lot of friends, this …

Vanessa McGradyRelationships: Lucy the Dog Part III

Relationships: Lucy the Dog Part II

I have three years’ worth of favorite memories with my husband, and seven months’ with my kid. For Lucy, I have 14 years of experience. It’s not full of adventure and mishap. It’s two friends who lived together and loved each other and went a lot of places. To me, my time with Lu is a novel, a movie, a …

Vanessa McGradyRelationships: Lucy the Dog Part II

Relationships: Lucy the Dog Part I

The first time I saw Lucy was in the spring of 1998. She was on a sliver of shoulder on a twisty road. One wrong step would have sent her down a sheer cliff to the frigid waters of Discovery Bay on Washington’s Olympic Peninsula. I slowed down to get a better look at this sleek, quick mutt, a cross …

Vanessa McGradyRelationships: Lucy the Dog Part I

Spirit: Holiday Apologies

I am sorry, friend, that I can’t make your holiday thing this year. I can’t add one more thing to the calendar for fear of imploding. I love you so much though. I am sorry, dogs, that I can’t take you out at 4 in the morning. Go ahead and pee in the kitchen, see if I care. OK, I …

Vanessa McGradySpirit: Holiday Apologies

Spirit: One Perfect Christmas Thing

The week had been nothing short of hellacious. We were slammed at work with an epic crisis. I somehow ended up taking a 36-hour shift with only a four-hour sleep break. I am not a doctor or firefighter or a coal miner or an air-traffic controller by day, mind you. I work in a grey cubicle. In my extreme exhaustion, …

Vanessa McGradySpirit: One Perfect Christmas Thing